Neurodivergent Relationship Agreement

End the cycle of miscommunication and overwhelm. This fully customizable, neurodiversity-affirming agreement template provides the clear, actionable structure you need to build an equitable, supportive partnership where one or both partners are neurodivergent (Autism, ADHD, etc.).
 
Is your relationship struggling with unspoken rules, sensory overload, and executive function roadblocks?
 
Traditional relationship advice fails when partners have fundamentally different neurological processing styles. The Neurodivergent Relationship Agreement is a comprehensive, customizable template that serves as a non-judgmental "owner's manual" for your unique partnership.
 
This digital asset is designed to formalize the conversations you need to have, translating abstract concepts like "overwhelmed" or "help me start" into agreed-upon, actionable protocols. It is a living document—a collaborative tool for structure and clarity, not a list of demands.

Key Features & Modules Included:
Conflict Resolution Protocol: Stop meltdowns and shutdowns before they start. Includes the "Code Yellow" pause word, mandatory time-out requirements, and a structured processing tool for safe re-engagement.
Energy Accounting Framework: Implement a shared language (e.g., "Spoon Theory") and a daily count to proactively manage capacity, prevent burnout, and make realistic commitments for social and household tasks.
Sensory & Environmental Needs: Go beyond "bright lights" to create a detailed Sensory Profile and list non-negotiable, actionable Essential Accommodations for light, sound, smell, and texture. Includes clear boundaries for each partner’s designated Safe Space.
Executive Functioning & Task Management: Achieve true task equity by delegating tasks based on a Strengths-Based Distribution Strategy. Features a protocol for breaking down large tasks into concrete steps and a script for gentle, non-judgmental Prompting.
Intimacy & Consent Protocol: Navigate physical connection with safety and clarity using a Sensory-Informed Consent System (Green/Yellow/Red Light cues) and a mandatory Post-Intimacy Recharge period.
Financial & Administrative Management: Implement transparent, structured financial check-ins and delegate critical administrative tasks (e.g., bill payment, budgeting) to the partner best suited to manage them, minimizing financial stress.

What You Get:
A fully editable Microsoft Word / Google Docs template (ready to copy and paste).
A guided framework with placeholders to simply fill in your specific details (Person, Date, File, Place).
Instructions and guiding principles for filling out and reviewing the document.
 
Download the Neurodivergent Relationship Agreement today and replace conflict with clarity.